Date: 2018-02-13 14:36
We met at the dog park and he gave my jewellery back, we chatted for about an hour, hour and a half. Just about life and what’s been happening with each other. It was a really peaceful and relaxed conversation. I apologised for my behaviour about going to his house unannounced and he just laughed it off saying ‘nothing like a mid week house invasion, don’t worry about it, I understand’. I also told him that I lied about having a new partner to hurt him and he looked relieved. Also during the chat we were talking about his friend (who I know) he mentioned his friend was on tinder and I mentioned something along the lines of oh haha are you on it? He said no, no way, I’m not interested in any of that at all. And shook his head. During the meet up his body language was open and directed towards me and there was a fair amount of eye contact (when I could). I mentioned that I was going to study law this month and he was joking about a tv show we used to watch together saying “oh been watching the good wife again”. I also mentioned to him I got a job offer in another city as a law receptionist but unsure if I will take it, he said it’s important to live in other cities at this age but to keep him updated. He asked how soon I’d go if I took it and I said well probably sooner rather than later but not too sure yet. There were a few other inside jokes he mentioned, like sayings we used to say together. Anyway, toward the end I said I had to go and I said I’d like to focus on settling into study for the next few weeks but would he be open to catching up for coffee after that, he said yeah and we hugged twice. After the meet up I sent a text saying nice to see you, you seem in a good place. He said yeah walking along, but getting there. Nice to see you too tessa bananana. Later that evening I said you should check out black mirror on Netflix! And he didn’t reply. Two days later I couldn’t help myself because I honestly thought the meetup would be bad considering I pretty much abused him 6 week prior and I text him saying mmm it was good to see you when are you free for that coffee? He then replied saying Tessa I’m happy to keep catching up and what not but I need you to relax on the texting, my best friends don’t even text me this much and I really just want to chill before we make any more plans for catching up. I then replied saying sorry it feels like I’ve lost a best friend, I understand. What about if we go for a hike in a few weeks, it’d be fun :)! He replied saying see how we go, but sounds fun :). And I haven’t text back.
I cheated on my boyfriend of 6 years. I was lost.. we weren 8767 t cmmunicating effectively and I was hurt that he hadn 8767 t proposed when he said he would. WE were in couples counseling and things were improving but then I got a waitressing job for the sumer before i started my new career. I was in Grad *censored*. I started at this restaurant and the chef swooned me. He was a pig. I fell for it. It was so nice to feel attractive, desired, special.. I didn t see he was just a loser taking advantage of my vulnerable state due to the lack of time becasue of *censored* and my failure to communicate in a clear way with my boyfriend causing me to assume things and tell myself he didn 8767 t really love or want me. I cheated..i slept with the other guy 8 times. After 6 weeks, the night before i was about to start my new job I told my boyfriend I was moving out becasue I cheated on him. He had a no cheating policy. He was devastated. Shocked. So was I I don t know how i did what i did. WHo i was then.. I truly don 8767 t. He is such a good man and we had such a beautiful bond. He wound up proposing to me a week later. I challemnged him. Told him i thought it was becasue he was afraid, that we needed to take things slow and see if we could get past what i di. He tried so hard for months. we were talking about me moving back in we were in couples again, but The other guy would not lewave me alone. he was relentless.. I was still talking to him on occasion, my boyfriend found out.. I stopped talking to him finally but he had made me question everything. Telling me my man could never trust me and would never be happy again.. I was such a fool I finally told him to leave me alone, but at that point my boyfriends pain and anger set in and he said he was done. That I broke his heart. That he oculd never forgive me becasue he doesnt understand how i was capable of what i did. I don 8767 t know how i was either.. I am so sad. I don 8767 t know how this happened. He told me he will always love me but not to wait for him when I told him i didn 8767 t want to give up, that I would wait for him.. he is sleeping with a woman now. It 8767 s been 7 full months since he told me it was over. We have a *censored* bit of contact. Most recently he told me he doesn 8767 t think i understand how badly my 8775 mistake 8776 hurt him.. I asked him to please share with me what this has done to him.. He said he didn 8767 t want to talk right then.. I love this man more then anyone i have ever loved in my entire life. We had issues, but I need to get him back. I don 8767 t know what to do. Should I give him space? HE is very guarded and private person. Quiet. Afraid of initmacy.. I burned him.. Badly.. I don 8767 t know how i did this Im scared the more space I give the farther away he will go.. I was in such a low place before I did what I did.. I have been working on myself in therapy and am back to church. I need another chance. What should I do?
Well here goes my story I was in love with this girl for 7 years and she cheated on me in July she has the night shift as a caregiver I asked her to marry me 8 years ago and we did it was great I thought everything was well but then come July she started telling me things like I don 8767 t love u anymore I can see you don 8767 t appreciate me anymore I would do everything for this girl and showed ur love and affection all the time then I was arrested and thrown in jail for a failure to appear I was in there for 7 weeks and when I came out she was still giving me the same story I started telling myself dos I really fuck up am I really not showing her these emotions she 8767 s asking for plain and simple she was talking to some guy on a app called pof (plenty of fish) that brain washed her and she slept with him. I confronted her because I felt weird on the way she was acting so I pretty much snatched her phone and read a message saying this (I think I made a mistake I 8767 m trying to forget you but it 8767 s hard I feel confused if I made the right choice) I said what 8767 s this she said it 8767 s just a guy I was talking to. So me being a man fucking calls this guy and tell him be a fucking man and tell he did and said that if I left her that he would be with her so I said fuckit keep the bitch. She starts crying and heads to work I text her while she 8767 s at work and tells me she wants him and I say ok but were gonna talk in the morning when u get home she said ok but that 8767 s she 8767 s gonna pick up her things and leave to him. I was even more pissed to hear that so I created a fucking master plan when she got home I asked her to do it for the last time she said ok so I recorded it and fucking went crazy with it then while she was a king her shit I called him and told him what I had done and sent him the video he dumped her ass and she suddenly became homeless but I said fuckit keep the apartment I 8767 ll leave and I did couple months later she calls me crying that if I can give her another chance but *censored* did she know that I was already with someone else her friend but I did feel bad on the action I took on her and am recently slowly talking to her but now the issue is that she found out that I was fucking her friend and is always asking me about her how I did it were I took her shit like that I just don 8767 t know cuz I was hurt even tho all the shit I did to ruin her happiness was because she ruined something that I thought was real I just don 8767 t know if I should continue with her I left things alone with the guy she was with but its like now she can 8767 t leave things alone with her idk I 8767 m confused
Hi, everyone. I am sooo glad that I found this thread!!! My situation is a bit interesting. My boyfriend and I have been dating for years. He has been divorced for about /9 years. Him and ex wife were together for 65 years. It started off with our first Christmas together being at my boyfriend 8767 s house with him, his ex wife, and their *censored*s on Christmas morning. The ex wife told me that she didn 8767 t want anyone to feel left out (she was single at the time). It was so awkward to share our first holiday having to watch the *censored*s open gifts from mom and dad, while I just sat there. I also had to purchase my own gifts for the *censored*s since my boyfriend and his ex went in half on shopping. The ex did the shopping, and he reimbursed her for half of the stuff. Anyway, they had a tradition to buy pajamas for each other so knowing that they were still going to do that in my mind was very inappropriate. I felt that we should be starting our own traditions. They and the *censored*s all were wearing their pajamas when I got to my boyfriends house early Christmas morning. (Ex was already there putting their presents under the tree) Ex asked me where my pajamas were, and I told her I didn 8767 t wear them because my son didn 8767 t have any and I didn 8767 t want him to feel left out. Fast forward so, they both share 55/55 custody and go to every event and function together. Even 8775 family nights 8776 they go together with the *censored*s. The ex throws birthday parties and he pitches in for half of it. The ex calls or texts almost every day about *censored*s and random things (boyfriend replies and answers), and she always makes it a point to my that she was first and my boyfriend is the father of her *censored*ren (I respect and get that, but she doesn 8767 t need to emphasize). Marking her territory. I use to do stuff with the *censored*s and try to create lasting memories, but then she would think of it as I am competing with her. She would always call or want the *censored*s right after, as to erase what we did together. I have stopped doing things because I am drained and emotionally exhausted from trying to do from my heart, and it meaning nothing. Ex recently got engaged, but my boyfriend still gives her advice on car issues and what not even though she has a man in her life. My boyfriend recently told me that the ex is still emotionally attached, and that there is nothing on his end. That may be hard to believe with his actions. He just bought a house and the ex dropped by the house because the *censored*s 8775 left their shirt. 8776 The *censored*s gave her the grand tour (even the master bedroom), and she gave him her thoughts about things in the house (I wasn 8767 t there). While helping my boyfriend pack up his kitchen before moving, I found a glass photo mug that he just got. It had one picture of each of his *censored*s and then one picture of his ex and the *censored*s on it. I still haven 8767 t processed how to feel about that. I did not bring it up to my boyfriend, but I am not sure if I even should. It 8767 s clear that there are no boundaries drawn here, and I am not sure if there ever will be. A while ago, I brought the matter up to my boyfriend, and his response is 8775 If you are going to have to walk on eggshells with her, then this isn 8767 t going to work long-term. She is who she is and there is nothing I can do about that. 8776 Recently, he told me that my feelings are valid and come first, but that he has to be mindful of his ex because she has mental health issues and it effects the *censored*s. So, that somehow sounds like a contradiction to me. 🙁
Hello.. I have an ex girlfriend that wants to work things out. She cheated on me last July and never told me about it. I let her move in with me shortly after that not knowing she had cheated. We have been FB s for 5 years and decided that we wanted to commit to each other. We had a *censored* a year later. Things were going the *censored* was born she started back drinking again. We had a lot of arguments. Then I told her I couldn 8767 t be with her any more if she was drinking. 8 days later she quit and so did i for 7 years. We had lived together at that point and she moved out do to the way I like my house kept. She actually has no respect for anyone but her self. She is very selfish. Anyway. She moved back in in at the end of july. I had a gut feeling she cheated. I asked her and she said she didn 8767 t. I didn 8767 t believe her. Well about a month later she was sitting in my garage drunk and talking to some guy on the phone.. Everytime I walked out she would go some where else. So I put my phone on record and hid it in the garage behind the chair she was sitting in. Wouldn 8767 t you know it. She was talking to the guy she slept with and I had it on recording of her saying I never cheated on anyone till I slept with you. She proceeded to tell this guy that I questioned her about it and she is telling the guy how she lied to me about it.. As you can imagine we fought. I kicked her out and let her back in 7 weeks later cause she had no where to go. Eventually we got back together. It was short lived. She moved back out in April of this year. We got back together and things were rough do to the drinking. She would go out to the bars and want to come over to my house at 7 in the am. I wouldn 8767 t let her cause she is mean. So she would call and text bad things like fine I 8767 m going. Home with this random guy. A week later she tells me she screwed a guy and in that same week in her drunken stupidity she said she screwed 7 more guys.. So I had enough and I went to a friend 8767 s house and brought this hot ass chick home and I nailed her. I proceeded to take a picture of the girls clothes on the floor on her side of the bed the she slept in when she would come over. That set her off She proceeded to tell me that she was lying about the guys she claimed to have slept with but slept with a stranger that night to get what she thought was even with me. I had believed she already slept with 9 different guys in less then a year.. Now she wants to work things out.. Here 8767 s the kicker. She says.. Don 8767 t ask whom I 8767 m texting or talking to on the phone. Don 8767 t ask about my finances or job.. She doesn 8767 t like me asking about that cause she screws her job over. She works about 65 hours every 7 weeks and claims on her time card that she works between a 655 to a 675 hours every 7 weeks.. She also says don 8767 t call me after 8:85 and I will not spend the night at your house. I know what I need to do but I 8767 m hanging on to hope. Hoping she will change. Open for advice.
Hi Christie , hope someone can help with my decision. After 65 years together and lots of family and financial problems my partner decides he needs space. Says he loves me but is not in love with me. Says it 8767 s not me but him. Accepted that and living separately. Found his profile on dating website. Just played it cool. After confronting him upset, realised faults on both sides and agreed to be just friends for now and who knows what will happen. We had a holiday prebooked to Hawaii and still went together and both had the best holiday ever. We always get along so well when it 8767 s just the 7 of us. After that, we caught up every fortnight for a meal or Sunday brekky to catch up on things and he came over for family functions. But I struggled with the whole friends thing and had an idea he was seeing someone so I called him to catch up telling him I wanted to talk. I explained everything I was feeling and that I understood he needed his space but that I was having a hard time dealing with it. He then told me he had been seeing someone for a few times. Nothing serious yet and that she knows about me and is aware that he is not going to stop catching up with me whenever he wants and that he still loves me but just can 8767 t be with me right now. Says that when he thinks about short term that 8767 s how he feels but when he thinks of long term future all he can picture is me. We then spent the next hour kissing, passionately, cuddling and would have been a whole lot more if I hadn 8767 t stopped him. We left on great terms and I said I needed some time to get my self right and that I wouldn 8767 t be contacting him as much for a while. 9 weeks later he asks me out for Sunday lunch and we have a great time catching up on and kiss and hug goodbye, but every time we catch up, I miss him again. So I tell him that night that I can 8767 t do the friends thing anymore, it 8767 s just too hard,and I font think I can see him anymore. He is sad that he has hurt me so but understands and wishes me every happiness and hopes we can be friends again one day. Since then I found out 7 weeks earlier he had introduced the new girlfriend to his sister. That sounds more serious. I still miss him every day and it is hard to move on. Of course I think we are meant to be together and this phase will pass. Have I done the wrong thing by not being friends anymore. Has it lessened my chances of any glimmer of hope of him every coming back. His daughter is coming down to stay for Xmas and wants to stay with me as we 8767 ll for a couple of days which is great because I 8767 ve pretty much raised her and she 8767 s like my daughter. But that means I will no doubt see him at dome point send I just don 8767 t know what to do or how yo handle this situation. Is he just playing me for a fool, feeling guilty or genuinely confused or is this a midlife crisis and hopefully he 8767 ll see the grass isn 8767 t that greener on the other side or have I lost hi. Forever and I need to forget him and move on. Please help me. All advise would be greatly appreciated especially from a mans point of view as well. thank you all in advance for your help.